Celebrating Self-Love: Simran Mangharam on Building a Stronger Bond with Yourself

As we usher in a new year, we often see it as an opportunity for a fresh start. We make resolutions to enhance our lives and improve our relationships.

However, many of these resolutions fade quickly because we realize that, fundamentally, not much has changed. We still carry our fears, hurts, and grudges into the new year.

True happiness emerges from the bonds we create with those around us—parents, siblings, partners, and friends. Yet, a crucial relationship often overlooked is the one we have with ourselves.

In our quest for approval from others, we frequently neglect how we treat ourselves. There's a long-standing evolutionary reason for this; our survival once depended on the approval and support of our community.

This mindset often leads us to believe that our own needs are less important. We postpone our dreams and focus on creating lives that impress others, even if they come at the cost of our well-being.

While trends may encourage us to prioritize ourselves, many still believe that selflessness is the more virtuous path.

As a result, we often treat ourselves as secondary, sacrificing health, sleep, and peace of mind to fulfill others' expectations. Instead of engaging in activities that bring us joy, we become caught up in a cycle of productivity.

This year, consider simplifying your resolutions to just one: make more room for yourself.

A practical approach to achieving this is to treat yourself with the same kindness and consideration you would extend to a loved one. This shift can lead to healthier habits, more quality time with family, and increased enjoyment in your life.

Since I began implementing this practice in January 2025, I've noticed significant changes in my relationships. By prioritizing my needs, I've experienced a sense of ease and lightness that enhances communication with others. It has boosted my productivity, confidence, and overall happiness.

Be mindful of relapses; many of us have created systems that revolve around rescuing others. Instead, work on establishing healthier patterns by delegating tasks, asking for help, and setting clear boundaries.

For those unclear about the difference between self-care and selfishness, remember that taking care of yourself enables you to help others more effectively.

This year, embrace self-love. Be kind, honest about your desires, and trust yourself. These elements are foundational to any relationship, and it's time to prioritize the one with yourself.